Through the World Barefooted -- Gerda's LBS Guide

[Gerda]

Propose everything remains as is, until June 1 2021. You get time to get your funding. H has ample time to sell, at his grossly inflated price, or reappraise in a post-Covid world.

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Oh my gosh, I think I left too much out if you think THAT! My strategy is based on upholding the stip exactly as is. It doesn't say anything about how the buy out will happen, how long it will take, etc. It was horribly vague, which is why I was trying to get out of it to begin with. I paid a lawyer to look it over and she said it was horribly written and vague in every way except the clause relating to the buy out -- crystal clear that after June 1, I have the right to buy him out at appraised value. Even if he gets an offer for a billion dollars. And that the judge would have to give me a reasonable amount of time to do that, and that reasonable is right now based on the covid reality. She said it was so clear that I should appeal if the judge doesn't uphold it.

I agree that the divorce is just about business. But this is one crazy a$$ business partner. I have not been posting about all that has been happening in a specific way. It is brutal. That is why I wanted you to come and beat the crap out of the players in his drama. Lying, false documents, bullying, threats and endless harrassment from his broker. All to avoid using an appraisal to determine equity, instead of a third party offer. Via stip, I am not allowed to have any representation and my no matter how much I cooperate, they file for contempt or threaten me, etc. No child support, no help with mortgage. And now we have the covid problem of them trying to bring people in and out of my place, putting my family and my renters at real risk. And the drama about the sign continued and reached a fever pitch, my son kept taking it down and getting more and more agitated because his dad had encouraged him to take it down -- and finally my son who had been doing so well exploded -- wrecked my house, disappeared for 12 hours, wrecked the sign, etc. Around here many people sell without a sign on the house and my son knows that. Not to mention that the market is down and the city has been shut down and empty so a sign is almost pointless. My son is smart. He knows his dad is just putting up that sign to try to control things or humiliate us or whatever he is trying to do. Because HIS BROKER HAS NEVER LISTED THE PROPERTY. I check on line every couple days. And the judge did too, her court attorney told us that in May. He has turned in many fake offers. He has some very weird plan up his sleeve, I don't know what it could be, but he is not trying to market this house for real.

I might have to sell the house very soon if I don't get the bank to modify my mortgage. If that happens, I just want to be able to have a real broker who represents me and works with me and the reality of the market and Covid, etc. And if I do get the bank to work with me and modify the mortgage, then I want to create a buy-out plan that gives him a down payment now and the rest in a year so that I can be free free free! I don't care if I lose some money or get a deal that isn't perfect. I just want to be done with this endless divorce!

So I don't know about your theory about my fear. I think it has more to do with my own pre-H wounds.