KC, I'm going to try and say this again and hope it gets through this time. You have two choices-
1) Do nothing. If you don't want the D then this is your option. GO DARK.
2) Push the D through yourself. Don't count on him to meet, to sign things, to agree to your terms. Don't count on anything from him, just do it yourself and file and let him respond. GO DARK.
QUIT WAITING ON H TO DO ANYTHING. He doesn't want to meet with you. He doesn't want to mess with the D paperwork. He just wants you gone out of his life. That's it, he just wants you to disappear by the easiest way possible, period. He is not going to lift a finger in your behalf, so quit expecting that.
OK so I want you to read and understand this part very carefully- if you meet with him and come to an agreement IT DOESN'T MEAN POOP. What you and he both SIGN is what matters. I told you this before, but I did what you are thinking about and met with my XW and we worked everything out and wrote it all down. BUT... when it came time to sign it? Nope, she decided she was getting a raw deal (she wasn't) and came back with demands and a threat to go to court if I didn't agree. She was completely complacent and agreeable up to that point, just like your H seems to be.
So with all that in mind, if you are choosing to push the D through because you have some (possibly misplaced) thought that it will be very beneficial to you financially, then DRAW UP THE PAPERS AND SERVE HIM. Don't meet with him. Just draw up the papers with what you think he's already agreed to and send it. He'll either sign it or he'll dispute it. If he signs it then great, you got what you wanted. If he doesn't, oh well at least you know what you are up against.
LOTS of WAS's when served will just sign it even if the terms are not in their favor. Why? Because it's the path of least resistance in getting rid of their LBS. Like I said before, he just wants you gone, so use that to your advantage.
