Also agree about asking the personal questions should have left it alone, I guess as her husband I have been so used to taking care of her that it was a natural question to make sure she was going to be alright. However if she said she didn't know I would have said well you need to think about that now (I wouldn't have offered help).
No 2X4, this was just funny to me. This is just to show you something you may not catch in yourself. Like you said, your brain is trained to taking care of her. You would have told her what....(or maybe, when) she should think.........but you wouldn't offer to help her. (smh) Guess you need to train yourself to let her think for herself? Funny!
Seriously, I can't imagine the weight of the burden you took at 16 yrs old. A wife and a baby!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
(smh) Guess you need to train yourself to let her think for herself? 
Funny!