Quote: Loving and giving should be a joy and I cannot see how giving to someone who exhibits behaviors counter to your integrity and to the detriment of a relationship could be joyful.
Excellent point. However, loving someone doesn't require giving up your integrety, let alone your soul. Christians have an example of how this can be done. Jesus was nobody's fool. He set healthy boundaries. He told the Pharasis just what he thought of them - and he did it with love. Peace was a goal, but it was secondary to integrety, truth and love.
As I said, it's the hardest thing I've ever attempted, but nothing else is/was working.
