Per everyone's advice I muted his texts so I often do see them until hours later. Then I try to take my time after reading the text before responding so that its not an emotional response. Makes sense and is to the point. .
Interesting how you cherry pick advice you are going to follow. Usually when it is line with your agenda.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Does he even see his own actions??? That is a rhetorical question. If he took the time to introspect he would see that he clearly never wanted control... and his anger about me being controlling is stemming from something else. If I had to guess it would be from him burning the candle at both ends with working 12s and never a day off in addition to the commute - feeling exhausted and feeling like he is getting no where due to no social outlet. But, I'm no therapist..
I'm not a therapist either but here are my thoughts. Woman typically don't want control of finances, vacations, security, fixing things etc. They want to the man to take care of it. When they don't and the woman has to take it over (perceived control) the resentment builds. Couple that with your OCD/Narc traits that nothing he ever did was good enough and he most likely felt emasculated and unappreciated. OW comes along and KK is expendable. The truth of the matter is if you are honest with yourself you were not happy either. Your relationship was very toxic. You just feel safe with stability are more afraid of the unknown.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Honestly, the longer this drags out the less I want to see or deal with him.
