Truthfully KK I don’t have a problem with you meeting with him and getting it done. What I have a problem with is the game playing with the texts. Responding in three words, 18 hours later etc. Just get the fuching thing done so you can start moving on. Take the lead and show you are done with this bs or let him do everything. This in between stuff is very weak.
I get that.
Per everyone's advice I muted his texts so I often do see them until hours later. Then I try to take my time after reading the text before responding so that its not an emotional response. Makes sense and is to the point.
The ball was again left in his court --- need to find meeting time.
Your right he is just not functioning even on one cylinder - his response was "I don't get off work today until 11am".
^^^I didn't ask when you get off work. I asked for a meeting time....
So I'm going to reply Sunday X Time. I'm done with the back and forth. For someone who accused me of being controlling (and I admit I was) I'm trying to not behave in the way he expects me to and let him take control... and he dumps it right back on me.
Does he even see his own actions??? That is a rhetorical question. If he took the time to introspect he would see that he clearly never wanted control... and his anger about me being controlling is stemming from something else. If I had to guess it would be from him burning the candle at both ends with working 12s and never a day off in addition to the commute - feeling exhausted and feeling like he is getting no where due to no social outlet. But, I'm no therapist.
Honestly, the longer this drags out the less I want to see or deal with him.
