I don’t know how to link my previous thread. But, long story short, H is living in D25 bedroom while she lives on the couch.
He drifts in after work and usually we will not see him until he drifts in the next day. I discovered OW2 but do not know the extent of their R. He asked for a divorce three weeks ago after 15 months of “not wanting to be married”.
I have really felt indifferent then overwhelmed in my own rollercoaster. One part of me wants to stay married and make this work, and another smaller part wants to do so many things, redo rooms in the house, travel possibly move, in a word, GAL.
I have started to really not wonder why he does what he does. (Example today, he came home from work and he had been near a bakery that makes bread I have really liked, and he brought me home two loaves as well as a chocolate crosiant) why? I don’t know. I can’t figure him out and that is not my task. I am learning my task is learning about me.
I am trying to 180 and maybe he sees it, maybe he doesn’t.
Today is an ok day. I am grateful.
Last edited by job; 10/13/2003:20 PM. Reason: added link to previous thread
