You are super focused on her. Not sure how you're going to stun her back into a happy marriage. Instead of a H2H that you clearly want to have, show her something. Actions, not words. And I don't mean reading books in front of her - that is peacocking.
Anyone could figure out that you having a job would make things better for her in a divorce not just a lawyer, but you sound reluctant to work. Do you think she respects that? Do you think she is attracted to that? She married you knowing what you do for work right? So I don't see your line of work as the problem.
Start working on you. Detach from her. Become happy with the life you are living, do what works, be attractive.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
