Thanks - expected the feedback received. Yes do need to drop the nice guy bit but its not natural.
My underlying challenge is that if you are playing it distant, some other party is going to be doing the exact opposite. Doesn't this create a void for them to fill, why would she become the pursuer when she can be pursued by someone else, someone new.
My daughter rang earlier (whilst with her mum) saying that mum couldn't sleep last night and came into her room to lie next to her on bed. I'm guessing but it seems my wife may have things on her mind - feels wrong if I'm distant and someone else isn't, that she will know where she can get her emotional support from.
Difficult day for me today - my daughter has gone to a friend's for a sleepover, so wife is free all afternoon until tomorrow morning. You can appreciate what is going through my mind and the temptation to drive past later to see if she is at home! Will need to fight this.
Thanks
Have you read the pursuit-distance dynamic thread? I think it would be time well spent.
You are in a dangerous time. She has fired you as her H. She'd love to be BFFs though. Then you;d get to hear all about her new relationships, etc. Does that sound like fun?
DJH, GAL. You should be busy busy busy. Keep working on self-improvement (180s). But learn how to be detached. Where her words and deeds are not impacting you emotionally. And finally, above all, realize that she is gone, likely not to return, no matter what you do or don't do.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
