I'm living vicariously through this thread. Here's my two cents. With the WOT, facing the feet (sometimes referred to as the "reverse cowgirl" position), if the woman starts to lean forward, making it painful for the man (as the penis begins to bend greater than 90 degrees downward), I have been known to take the opportunity to switch to doggy style (albeit not with my W, but with a prior partner, as W is not adventurous in this respect at all). Phew. Just a suggestion to all you people out there who are actually having sex.
Okay, on another subject, namely, me, I'd like to ask people about the following, especially you, Atlanta Dave. We've talked about the "vision of where we'll be in 5 years." I've always shied away from this because my W is a "be here now" kind of person. This week, however, she mentioned that in five years she'd like to have an office in a different location than she is now, and be able to pick and choose her clients better (especially picking those clients who would actually pay her!). So she has "opened the door" so to speak to looking at the future.
Since we will be driving a LONG way on our vacation, I'd like to bring up the subject of where I'd like to see US in five years. I would talk about financial stuff, parenting stuff, and, of course relationship stuff. As a part of that, sex stuff. I would say to her that I see us as having mostly resolved our differences on ML, and that we would be ML at a minimum of once a week. At the risk of pre-writing this script in my head, here's two versions of how it would go from that point on:
THE GOOD VERSION: W: That would be great! How 'bout we get started on that tonight!
Okay...probably more like this:
W: I don't know if once a week is do-able, but, like you, I hope we resolve these issues, and that we are able to ML at a frequency and quality that makes both of us happy.
Okay, so that's how I hope it goes down. Here is
THE BAD VERSION, brought to you by Schnarch, Inc.:
W: Dream on. Even if we did resolve our differences, which is not likely, I can't imagine ML more than a few times a year. That's enough for me, and it should be enough for you. Anyway, this pressure on me to perform up to your standards, just makes me all the more likely to not want to ML with you at all.
Hairdog: Well, that's a choice you will have to make. If that's the way you see things, however, then my vision of us five years from now is very fuzzy. But ten years from now, if you still feel that way, I think it's fair to say that you and I likely won't be married anymore.
Just thinking out loud.
Hairdog - who is anticipating this vacation with hope and dread.
