I don't want a divorce II NEW THREAD Pt 21

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KC,

You are absolutely correct. He has ZERO concern for you. We all have been telling you this ad nauseam.

What I have found, many times people become motivated to change when they are faced with the loss of something. The loss of a relationship, the loss of a job, or the death of a loved one. The evidence is scattered throughout these forums. You see the evidence every time you look in the mirror.

Your H has not experienced this with you. Why? Because you are hanging on for dear life. There is absolutely no motivation for him to change.

You want to know when things "might" change? When you have no concern regarding what he thinks or does. When you put the focus on yourself and your happiness. Ultimately, your happiness is your responsibility anyway.

You have more power in this than you realize. You have to work on your EMOTIONAL DETACHMENT. When is the last time you read that thread? You want to know when your detached? When you don't have to wonder if you are, because you are busy living your badass life.

You have choices. I hope you choose to quit calculating moves in an attempt to get a reaction or his attention. It will never work. That's also evident.