I know this is going to sound like I should know the answer, but as a LBS sometimes the obvious isn’t.
I shouldn’t be cooking for him, should I? If I am in the kitchen making myself something and he wanders in, I can offer to share, but if I am cooking and he is ensconced in his room, I am not going to knock on the door and ask him if I can make a plate, am I?
Case in point, today D25 and I went to her storage locker and when we came back, he was in the room, door closed. I was hungry, made myself some lunch and ate. Later D25 made herself some lunch and was eating when he came out of the room. I heard him ask her if there was anything good and whatever her reply was not what he wanted to hear so he left to eat. It is so hot here, I am a salad kind of gal. That is what I am planning for dinner, it won’t be for a few hours, but I just make what I planned, right? It seems so silly to ask, but if I should be asking him, I will.
After the first BD last spring, I did eventually see a thaw between OW and at that time, I would ask him if he wanted anything and he actually would occasionally bring home food to share. I am not seeing a thaw. The last thaw happened probably six or seven months after discovery of OW and their subsequent break up. I was trying to navigate that when he abruptly shut down in May (one year after first BD) and now is still strong.
I also stopped doing his laundry as he knows how to operate the washer and dryer and why should I?
