Hi Jimmy. I think it sounds like you are handling things really well. I guess it depends on whether you are open to reconciliation or if you think you can be “just friends”. I suspect she is telling you “just friends” to remove any expectations of the two of you getting back together and thus the pressure. All behaviour has meaning...she is reconnecting for reasons she may not even recognize.
If you are okay with being friends, I would continue to do what you’ve been doing. Live your life and respond to her when she reaches out as you would a friend. If you are hoping to reconcile, I would still do that, however, I would make it clear in my actions that I was moving on and not waiting for her. In other words, I wouldn’t always be okay with her joining the family outings and you could even let her know it is because you are not wanting to give your kids the wrong impression or you are wanting to get used to life without her always being around. Perfectly understandable given the circumstances. I think if you sit back and act “meh”, she will start to pursue you more. Seems to me you are in the driver’s seat right now even though she may think that she is...lol.
