And yes, some MLCers do wake up. Let the future reveal itself in due time. Continue your inner work. Become the best version of you.
Your twisting path: You are not without weapons. Mental assertiveness. Utilize your intellect, it will reinforce your better feelings, and strengthen beliefs. Compliment that mental effort with physical activity. Logic and reason are powerful - sword and shield. Cut through the fog and find clarity. Block the projections and spew from H.
Originally Posted by PLC
What if don’t want to let go? It’s just harder for me, right? He left me.
Of course you don’t want to let go. You are the LBS. It’s perfectly normal. You are fine. You’re not crazy.
However, you do see the wisdom in letting go. Right? You see how fear is paralyzing you.
This is a battle within you. Use your weapons - logic and reason. It will feel wrong, this is very counterintuitive. You have a 30 year relationship, all that history, trust, loyalty, etc. to put aside to realize that H is an alien, for right now.
Originally Posted by PLC
Do I matter? Does our daughter? I don’t know.
Yes, you matter.
Mental assertiveness shield - stop measuring your worth based upon H’s actions. You matter!
Mental assertiveness sword - cut those strings H is pulling you with. You matter!
Focus on you. Detach. Find indifference. Let go.
You’ve got a strong mind. Be strong.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
