I have gone through one OW with him, and this is the behavior that he displayed at the beginning with her. Almost a “cheating” on her if he spoke to me or was around. It is very juvenile, I know. I mean, he’s married cheating on me but is acting like he can’t talk to me because it is a betrayal to their relationship.
I was working towards a little”new normal” with little conversations, he would eat in the room with me, the meals I cooked, this was after the first 26YO OW was over. I noticed he began sliding back into the non looking at my eyes, eating after I left the room began around May. I discovered OW contestant number 2 (that I am aware of) at the end of May. He gradually went back into self exile after that point, the asked for a D at the end of July.
He has traveled for work and pleasure since then, so I am usually alone. I have really made my house a sanctuary for me.
He really can’t be the H I want, and I am ok some days, realizing this is MLC, other days, my mind tells me MLC, and then it also tells me, he just doesn’t want ME. It’s a battle within me, I can’t even imagine what his battle is like within him. Does he even realize what he’s done?
When he asked for the Divorce, he said he didn’t want to be “enemies” don’t friends speak? Also when asked and prodded a little by me if he had someone else, he said no. So the lies are sticking there.
Anyway, I have the whole day ahead. I will do something. He already left and I don’t expect to see him until tonight.
