Hey guys, Thanks for the technical input. I think that his initial reason for liking it is his "tiredness" and a desire to lay back and relax while enjoying the eye candy. That is FINE with me; I just wish that he physically enjoyed it more.
I did the feet-facing thing once and he was so....uncomfortable or freaked out or something that I have not tried it again. I asked him while we were doing it if he liked it and there was no response. I asked him afterwards if he liked it and silence, again. So I scrapped it. It wasn't that physically stimulating for me, so why keep it in the repertoire was my thinking!
Btw, the next day I was absolutely filled with shame and regret for even trying it. It sucks to put yourself out there sexually only to have the other person freak on ya.
In thinking about it, I am not sure why he has a hard time finishing this way. I am no slouch and can get pretty vigorous (I like the vigorous stuff myself, so it is not all for him) but he is just not either mentally or physically turned on enough. I think the fact that I am looking at him makes him feel weird, too. (I am always sitting up, or partially sitting up)
We have also done the him sitting up and me straddling him. This has never worked either. I do think that it is a mental thing with him and he "thinks" he can only do it one way or, rather, he prefers to do it that way so he unconsciously holds out for that.
What do you think about me saying one night: "This is the only way we are having sex tonight, so either enjoy yourself or wait til the next time." He thrives on ultimatums, so this is not sadistic of me! After all, you have to understand that I offer him very little by way of sexual challenges. He has to work for nothing so there is no motivation to challenge himself (under our current arrangement) to finish any other way than his preferred method (rear entry, hard and fast).
Ok, I've rambled on enough about this. Dang Mojo gets my mind in a whirl and then runs off!
