The 20 something year old I dated I was the best in terms of dating. Asked me out properly, took me to a nice place, made fun dates, was excited to see me, cooked for me, etc. he dated me wonderfully. Of course I was very appreciative as I always am the same way when dating someone.
This guy I’m “seeing” that I had been talking to many many years ago appears to be the same guy. I had hoped he had upped his game since . No, he’s still the same. He doesn’t treat me like a woman. He still sends his stupid perverted memes. Doesn’t ask how my day is. Made one real date, I made the next. Does nothing to get me to look forward to seeing him again. Is dying to have the “make me dinner” date for the wrong reasons. ( sex, doesn’t want to drive to see me, etc.). I mean, I guess there is a reason why he is never married. Good on paper as an established man, but he’s got zero game .
I’m not asking to be wooed. But keep my interest just a little if you are actually interested.
I feel like men want to do nothing to get and keep a woman’s interest anymore. Especially 40-50 something year old divorced men. If you are that lazy in the beginning, I can’t imagine years down the road.
And I’m not even talking gifts and money. I have never really gotten those at all either. And I would say most of my dating experiences have been even paying.
Just act interested. Who knows, maybe they aren’t ad I haven’t truly captured a guys attention in a long time.
The whole dating thing is hopeless. I thought it was mad in my 30’s as a divorced single mom. Turns out is is worse in my 40’s because my level of tolerance is so much lower and guys have gotten much lazier
