Quote: So, how do I self-soothe? Just tell myself I'm a good guy? Or do I stroke the satin edge of my blankie? Think about my mommy (leaving out the image of her beating me with a coat hanger)? Eat a bag of M&Ms?
For me, it's important to have outside interests so I'm not always sitting around stewing in my own juices, thinking about sex.
Running is very helpful (I'm doing 3-6 miles every other day). For me, so is music (flute, pennywhistle, dumbek, quena ... I'm working on frame drum now). Also, just doing pleasant things with my wife, holding hands, smiling, writing her nice notes, etc.
If ALL I think about is sex, and NOTHING is happening there, then I get really, really frustrated.
