Quote: What you seem to be telling me is that she won't see the light until I nudge her out of her comfort zone, and force her to find that light for herself. Of course, that may end the smoothness that is our marriage right now.
That's exactly right, imho. Without nudging her out of her comfort zone, she has no incentive to do anything different - she is SATISFIED with the status quo. And yes, this will end the smoothness in your marriage, but it will have the effect of "disturbing" the gridlock, and potentially causing the two of you to move forward in your R. This is a GOOD thing, although it WON'T be comforable or easy... nothing worthwhile ever is.
