FS...I think you just got your first glimpse of the possibility that there might be another life out there for you and it scared you because that would mean you had really left your old life behind...which you haven’t quite done yet, IMO. This guy sparked something in you, you could actually see yourself with him and that was really, really scary. It sent you down a road of what if’s that illuminated all of your fears and insecurities that naturally come up when you have gone through that trauma of an unwanted divorce. It shakes you to your core. So I have some other what if thoughts... What if for him, this wasn’t a one night stand? What if you continue and you open up your life to him and he stays? My advice... if he calls and asks you out again, go out with him. But maybe do something during the day outside so you don’t necessarily end up at his place again?
I think that your experience on Saturday was a good one FS. It illuminated some things that you were not aware of and you know where you are at emotionally and what you have to work on still. But besides that, I think it showed you that you are wounded, yes, but definitely NOT broken. Yay!!! (((HUGS)))