The "Now" MM wrote: what I'm saying is it's better to self-soothe through empowerment rather than distraction. ______________________________________
I think she's saying that she's convinced herself that she's OK in what she wants and why she wants it. That means she's overcome the "there must be something wrong with me" thoughts that come with rejection. The way she did it (it seems to me) was to put away the assumption that the way her H reacted to her said something about her (instead of him). Now she has "empowered herself" by recognizing that her wants are different from H, but just as OK. If he doesn't want to accept them, she's still OK.
MM got her mojo back by some pretty effective differentiation, IMO. But, I think it needs to be said that she never really lost her mojo. It was there all the time, but it was covered up by her H's LD responses to/rejections of her. IOW, she was always a sexual person, even when NoMojoBlue. She just didn't feel like it when H acted asexual toward her.
