I think that some of the techniques from Michele's books, Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy, can help with self-soothing especially the last resort technique (stop pursuing, and improve the quality of your own life no matter what your partner may be doing). A lot of the threads on the other boards such as Newcomers, Midlfe Crisis, Infidelity, etc. have good suggestions from posters and moderators.
Moderator JamesJohn has a thread titled Thoughts About the LRT (he says that this technique should perhaps be called the "ongoing technique" ) that has some great information that could be used in self-soothing.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis
