I seem to remember an earlier post in which you called yourself a "sexual machine" or something like that. For me self-validating my own sexuality in that way has been an effective way of self-soothing, whereas my previous method of self-soothing which involved eating too much ice cream was counter-productive. Becoming a passionate gardener let me ignore my inadequate sex life for a while but it suddenly stopped working for me when I realized I was settling for a level of muted sensuality appropriate perhaps for a feeble 90 year old rather than a healthy 39 year old woman.
So I guess what I'm saying is it's better to self-soothe through empowerment rather than distraction. Does that make sense?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
