Living in the Light - Part II

[LH19]

D,

I am going to give you some feedback as I see it from a single man your age.

So glad I have the next two weeks off because I’m having a hard time sleeping.

I am sorry you are having trouble sleeping. It happens to me and is very frustrating.

Still radio silence from TDH despite me having apologized profusely for my less-than-stellar reaction to our cancelled weekend. I don’t know why this is still bothering me so much.

What exactly entails apologizing profusely? One apology was sufficient.

I guess I just really hate the idea that there is someone out there who thought I was this amazing person and now thinks I’m a complete jerk. And there is nothing I can do about it because he has stopped talking to me.

How could you possibly think he was amazing when you never met him? He stopped talking to you because you are not flexible and over reacted. I have/had in my dating profile. Looking for someone flexible. (both kinds would be nice lol)

Wow...being ignored is SUCH a trigger.

Maybe something to explore with IC?

My sister thinks I may have dodged a bullet. She thinks I definitely could have handled things better but what I did wasn’t unforgivable considering the circumstances.

Uuuuuuum how you handled it without even knowing what "apologizing profusely" is would have been a deal breaker for me.

She says he could have taken an extra couple of minutes to apologize. Even though he had a good reason for not coming, he did leave me sitting there all day thinking he was on his way only to get an abrupt “not coming’ text in the 11th hour with a promise to call.

He apologized. My guess is he didn't know his son's reaction until it was time to leave.

She also thinks that he had a really unrealistic view of me and had made me into this ideal image that I could not have lived up to so better this happens sooner rather than later.

What view do you think he had of you without ever meeting you?

And that if he can’t forgive me for five stupid minutes that I have apologized profusely for, he’s probably not someone I would want to be in a relationship with anyway.

Again, you never met and you kind of flaked on him. I am shocked that your shocked you never heard from him again.

She’s probably right. I am a good person but I am definitely not perfect and if perfect is what he is after, he needs to keep looking.

I think he is just looking for someone a little more flexible and understanding.

D, I think these are learning experiences in the whacky life of middle age dating. Learn from it.