He mentioned several times in the early weeks about moving back home, but I kept the brakes on, I told him I needed to feel that he was really into me, that this time it was for keeps.
Ok. So I am assuming this happened. What do you think changed?
Originally Posted by Pommy99
I honestly dont know whether to ask him to leave and go back to his rental, or to have him at home while we see what MC has to offer.
You have time to decide.
Originally Posted by Pommy99
He is being incredibly affectionate, I've had more ILYs in 72 hours than I probably had in the last 2 months. He has said so many times he wants to try, and that before (i.e. last year) he didnt want MC but now he does.
Hmmmmmmm.
Originally Posted by Pommy99
This is all so positive, and yet all I can see is last year on repeat, where he is asking for more time. He asked this in August (and November, and January). And all that got me last time was a heap of lies and deceit while he carried on his cake-eating and EA, and ultimately he walked 7 months later.
I think your gut is telling you something.
Originally Posted by Pommy99
I do actually feel more in control than I realsied and I feel that I could cope if I asked him to leave now, whereas if I leave everything in his hands again, I'm going to be a complete mess the longer this limbo goes on.
This sentence seems like you are contradicting yourself.
Originally Posted by Pommy99
I realise now that if he is in contact with EAP I will kick him out in a heartbeat. No excuses this time.
Good!
Originally Posted by Pommy99
I think I will see what comes out of today's MC and if that makes things any clearer.
I agree. See if he's there to put in the work or he's there to check boxes.
