I don't want a divorce II NEW THREAD Pt 20

[LH19]

Manipulation??? Or just trying to act as if --- like he didn't break me... Wouldn't throwing a hissy fit, being nasty or avoiding also be manipulating him by just being the opposite looking for attention. There isn't anyway to win this but looking back wouldn't it better than I acted with self respect and kindness???

Somewhere in between. Boxing up his stuff and leaving it in the garage.

Personally at that point - yes, I wanted to behave in a way that would allow a path back to our relationship. If you told me to act like a total witch because it works I would have done that instead.

Again somewhere in between. Show him you have respect for yourself.

When I say I went off on my H.... well let's be real. I wasn't angry. I wasn't hateful. In one short sentence I pointed out that his words don't even come close to his actions... sure I could have put on there the motorbike ride offer... the offer to make more dog treats. But, I kept it to one sentence. To point out that his words CLEARLY mean NOTHING.

Again, why do you expect anything from him????????

I'm disposable --- his dad is not. H and I always talked that SS20 was our only chance for grandkids as we highly believe that the two younger ones will not. Its hard enough to feel that H can toss me out.... but my stepkids too??? I realize their position is not an easy one either. AND, that is why I left it to SS20 let me know what he is comfortable with.

Serious speculation

From a passing comment SS20 made which I did not discuss its clear that H's narrative is to vilify me - he told SS20 that he has the puppy because I couldn't handle him... WHAT??? I went to great lengths on trying to decide what was the best for everyone... me, the puppy, H. And, wait... who can't handle him??? He called me twice with puppy emergencies the first week he had him.

Yep. He has to justify his wrong doings. Pretty standard but you still are in love him no matter what.

As for the block - SS20pic showed up on my FB feed and H commented but I can't see it because after 6months he feels now is the time to block me. WHATEVER.

He may be trying to spare your feelings.

H tried to say that S19 has been busy (not) in regards to dinner and does he really need help because he is only gone 3months.... well if that's the case does OW daughter need help moving cause she is only gone 3months too... but that is a priority for ya!

And your shocked? Of course that's where his priorities are but you love him no matter what.

Thanks for letting me vent. It helps to get it out so I can get over it.

How about moving forward you post only about you and your son. What's next for you two?