Thanks for checking in. I haven’t said anything, but have just been mulling it over for if/when it happens again. I thought about it and did decide that I don’t want to stir anything up. The simplest way to respond so as to not shoot myself in the foot in terms of communication with my daughter while she is with him is to go with the “I’ll let her know you said xyz” route.
I realized when I thought about it more that this is one of the methods that he has utilized in the past to hook me back in and keep me attached. He’d send a message to our daughter, she/I/we would respond, then he’d segue it into some banter. This solution does not open the door for that, so I think it works well for me.
