BB, you ask a very difficult question. How do you get past the biggest betrayal a human can perpetrate on another human. How do you forgive a lying cheater? I assume you mean how do you forgive a lying cheater to the point you can trust them again? Some forgive their cheating spouse and still choose to divorce. Some forgive, stay together, and struggle with trust for years.
Cadet gave you a great answer: look for action not words.
I'd also suggest a few things that might help, requirements you can require:
1) He and you both get into IC. 2) You both go to MC. 3) He agrees to complete transparency. No locked phones, no accounts you don't know the password to. 4) He agrees to share location with you through a smartphone app (like Life360).
Understand, earning your trust is up to him. He has the hard work to do to prove to you he is back, changed, and past the affair. If he balks at any of that I'd seriously consider filing for D and moving on.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
