Generally with cheating spouse's that have moved out it is best to split finances ASAP! However, there maybe legalities. This is another situation where you really need to consult an attorney.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
H said he started the D papers. I said if that what he wanted to do im not stopping him.
That hit hard though.
Thinks it fate and thats what was meant to happen to us And he knows it tough on me and a difficult time for him to and if i wanted to speak to him i can ring him. He says its bot Mlc or some sort of crazy decision he has thought long and hard over the past 18 months as our relationship has been breaking down.
You seem to be in a really strong place and that is very attractive for sure. Let him wonder why you are so cool with everything.
Pull that rug out from underneath him... but be prepared for things like... see you don't really need me... you are just fine with out me. He is seeking your validation that you do need him. Instead keep moving forward... that is what gets their attention.
Sorry to hear about D papers. He may start them as a way to manipulate you and then do nothing with them. Take it a moment at a time and hug those kids!
He was apprently advised IC to keep contact With me to a minimum to make the grieving easier and to allow me space to process all of this and come to terms. So it sounds like he has obv spoken to a professional.
Gigi, your husband lied, cheated and left you for another woman. I've never understood how him then filing for D is worse than that? It is a legal proceeding. If he ever decides he wants to R, being D'd or not will not prevent that.
So keep your perspective here. I see LBWs in particular struggle with D being a definitive ending. It isn't necessarily and is nothing compared to what he's already put you through.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Ill be honest it was a low blow as he knowS we are going away to see my family specifically to get away from this all. He thinks i have it all too easy! He has said its unfair that i live in this house, have the kids full time and seem very comfortable......