Honestly. Why would he even think that? Why would you want to spend your birthday with him? Or that any of your family will want to spend time with him? What a dumba$$. Sorry, don’t mean to be rude and I know my dumba$$ would probably say exactly the same thing. I hope you told him no. And then go and have a blast without him.
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing