I have been thinking a lot recently and whilst i dont like the person my H is at the moment and i know and feel that my life is continuing without him. Im also committed to my marriage whilst we are still married.
Core values are crucial, and I am glad to see you sticking to this. Many a LBS has decided to get even with their lying, cheating WAS by going and having their own fling. It never works well because the only thing worse than 1 problem SO is 2 problem SOs. And trust me, the new fling would be a problem because you are no where close to being in a place where you could actually start something new and fresh.
Now one thing I hope the above doesn't mean is that you will never go file for D yourself. The reason I say that is that WASs are notoriously lazy when it comes to the actual D. Most of the time the LBS finally gets fed up and tired of waiting and goes and files.I am a pretty conservative evangelical and stoutly anti-D, but even those of us with that belief system make an exception for adultery. No one would blame you one iota for filing for D after what he has pulled! And even if someone did, they'd be objectively wrong in their blaming.
We are here for you Gigi! We support you and are willing to help you with any questions you may have!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
