So how do you start to remove yourself as that safety net? Because I can tell you, that as long as he can do whatever he wants whenever he wants and still come home to you as his safety net, he will continue to do what he is doing.
I have to admit, I'm still struggling with this a bit. But I do notice that the more I manage to have an I don't care attitude with him, the more he keeps reaching out to me. He hasn't said anything more about moving out still. He asked if my mom could take the kids one weekend because he got invited out to his buddy's camp. I actually got excited for 30 seconds until he continued that he knows I will probably be getting stuff ready for school that weekend. (I work in the schools) I felt so stupid.
I notice that he makes little digs at me and I used to laugh or dish it back. Now I just look at him straight faced and repeat what he said. It's no wonder my self-esteem is shot.
I'm mad that I'm the only one changing and improving myself, so I've started a list in my journal about what *I* want in a relationship and what that looks like to me. I'm spending more of my evenings doing what I want within the house instead of cleaning. I'm apologizing less for basically existing. I'm posting more selfies. I'm making meals that I feel like cooking/eating vs what he wasnts/expects He told me to go out the other day for some peace and quiet. Typically I would rush back. I took my time and even got myself a coffee. I have my good days and my bad days. I'm really leaning on my friends a lot.
