Oh cardinal... I’m so sorry for the situation you are in. It’s awful. I was so enmeshed with my ex that I took everything he said to heart.. even though I shouldn’t have. Everything from me being the reason he didn’t love me to allowing him to get in my head and freak me out about his threats re: finances. Cardinal, I don’t post much because I just don’t feel like I have any value added commentary... just know you are not alone and you will get through this. I know you will and I’m rooting for you.
Personally, outside of these current divorce shenanigans, I can honestly say my life is so much better than it was when I was married. I’m more fulfilled, I have more genuine friendships, I’m happy. I think this is the result of really diving in and doing the work needed. Im so grateful for the life I have created. It takes time and intention but it’s possible.
Now, back to the d.. ex is contesting everything. Can’t share more than that, but my god.... we’ve got a long slog ahead of us.
Oh and- Hello bttrfly. Hugs to you as well. I was driving in my neighborhood and came across a car with a license plate about a wolf rescue and I paused for a moment to send you good wishes. I know you’ve been in the muck lately as well.
That’s actually my new thing I started doing since shelter in place orders occurred. Every time I come across something that specifically makes me think of someone/ something, I take it as a sign. I pause, say a prayer, a good wish or set a good intention and go on my way. The more I do this, the more the “signs“ keep coming!
Last edited by Pax_luv; 08/07/2006:02 AM.
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
