Really am sorry you had a rough day. It sounds like you really are growing and saying that you know you and your wife aren’t ready to reconcile even though recon is what you want shows a lot of awareness. I’m young and new to the whole thing so I won’t try to give out any advice but it seems like you’re doing great. I hope tomorrow’s a better day for you.
Sometimes just picking yourself up off the ground and restarting tomorrow is something to be proud of. I’ve had to do a lot of picking myself up lately so I know the feeling.