Glad to hear you’re forming closer bonds with your coworkers, even if it’s not the same.
Boo for your ex. :p
I hope you find that special someone to share your life with—without forgetting your must-haves and cant-stands! If I understand right, you filter by chemistry and keep ending up with emotionally unavailable men. I wonder if chemistry is a good guide for you? A fair share of people, myself included, seem to have semi-broken “pickers”.
