I've got the compassion down, but judement is agressive in trying to take a foothold. I am resisting, and know that as things unfold, and more openess prevails, it may become more agressive. I will persevere in overcoming it.
I do empathize with those judgemental feelings. I credit S21’s GF for my eventual shift in my perception. Of course I did have a hand in it - it is my head after all. Anyhow, she mentioned how she was taught that only God is wise enough to be able to judge someone. It took me several weeks to find my way to see that and let go my ingrained attitudes. And a lot of peace and forgiveness followed.
In matters of the soul and morals, who are we to judge. There is so much hidden information that we do not know. Even our MLCer spouse doesn’t know their own information. Only God can see all.
I do want to share that for me, it wasn’t so much resisting and overcoming, it was accepting it. Accepting that I was judging her. Like “overcoming” fear is not done by the direct approach, we more come at it sideways.
I do love following your journey. The little moments of anxiety are normal, and a good thing IMHO. You are doing an excellent job of navigating these new waters.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
Anyhow, she mentioned how she was taught that only God is wise enough to be able to judge someone. It took me several weeks to find my way to see that and let go my ingrained attitudes. And a lot of peace and forgiveness followed.