Light at the end of the tunnel

[rooskers]

Do you ever wonder if you should have been able to detect your XW was capable of these things earlier? In my case, I always knew my W was uncompromising and controlling to a degree. But I thought at the time she was "driven" and a "self-starter" and admired her confidence. Now I think she has an inability to take responsibility for her actions and lacks self-awareness. I know these situations can be "he said, she said" but the accusations have reached a level of craziness that is completely astonishing.

There were red flags that she could do this but I did not look at them because I loved her. She never had a good relationship with her parents, brother, or really had any long-lasting friends. I met her in college because my roommate was dating her best friend. Her best friend never wanted to go alone so would bring my EX over and we ended up getting to know each other. The friendship blossomed into much more even when my roommate broke up with my EX's best friend. One day her best friend and her just stopped talking and my EX never explained why. Anytime I was with my EX and we saw her old friend she would glare at my EX and shoot lightning from her eyes. I found that would happen a lot to my EX, she would make friends and then one day they would mysteriously never talk or associate with her again. She would always claim she had no idea why that would happen. She is the most bubbly, exciting, driven, energetic, happy person I have ever met. The only problem is if you turn your back she would stick a knife in you and watch you die the whole time with a smile on her face or tell you how sorry she is for having to kill you.