You don't have to explain it to me. I am just looking at the optics, and how your H will react. Likely reaching out. Which based on your history I have to question whether or not that was the intent.
Again, you owe me no answers! You do you. But as an outside observer I have to question the motive.
So if I am understanding you correctly - you looking at my situation are questioning my motives for seeing my stepchildren?
I raised these kids.
My SS20 tells everyone I was the first letter he got when he was in basic training.
I have not said a word to H about seeing SS20 and I'm nearly 100% positive SS20 has said nothing to him about meeting up with me.
Would you walk away from kids you raised for 10yr???
I will never expect to see them in the same setting where H would be there unless he expressly stated he was okay with it. My relationship with them will be private and most likely keeping in touch through text. As I stated before S19 and SD19 were super duper close with one another for years. I'm more interested that S19 doesn't have to cut those connections.
The minute SS20 stated that SD19 had stated she wanted to be there and planned to come S19 lit up like a Christmas Tree! S19 really misses SD19.
I know you are just trying to get me to think. AND, I have been. I need more time to delve into another topic that is stirring some anger and resentment. Once I process it a bit more I will write it out here just to burn through it better.
