So you regularly met SS20 and SD20 for lunches prior to all this happening? Just looking for context.
SS20 is military and has been deployed longer than he should have due to Covid. I have not seen him in just over year (last time he was home). I regularly sent letters and care packages during the last 2yr of his military service - like at least once a month.
We are not in constant contact but will occasional communicate via messenger or he might like a FB post or I would comment on one of his.
SD19 is a bit of a recluse dealing with a lot of her own issues in life. She cut communication with her father last December - H bears 70% responsibility and SD19 bears 30%. I have texted her at the holidays and sent her a package in the last 6 months - no response but its extremely common that she doesn't respond to people's text, her grandmother, her brother, etc.
S19 has texted her a couple of times with no response but yesterday she responded to him via twitter. S19 is hopeful to see her in person soon.
SO - short answer is no. Because up until 6months ago I just saw them as part of daily life. SD19 and I used to go for facials once a month together. I helped raise these kids for 10yr.
We are as a family have been transitioning kids to adults so relationships change and dynamics change as they no longer live with you. Have I done lunches and dinners with SS20? Yes, of course but H was always part of the mix.
