Not sure I have a reason to hope...

[Pommy99]

Hi Sage, I’m so sorry you are going through this. I really do feel your pain, I have been there. You don’t have to make any decisions about D right now. Settle yourself, focus on you and your children and not H or the M. I do really see so many similarities between our Hs - I’m leaving / I’m staying / I love you / I’m leaving blah blah . I do think your H is confused and sorry to say that this has to happen for there to be any hope of repair. He doesn’t know what he wants - 4 weeks ago he wanted to recommit, now he says it’s over. He is in a world of pain and confusion. You are strong enough to deal with this, you will recover - with or without him. I would just drop the rope as much as possible. Don’t think about D because you may not be thinking rationally right now, and he certainly isn’t. You got this Sage {{{hugs}}}