But while he is here, I want openness and equality and that means that I get to tell him I am unhappy and get some of that validation I've been spoon-feeding him for months and months and months. Doesn't it?
DB would say no, but I get it. Functional, healthy relationships do rely on partners validating each other.
I can't pretend to know how to piece and how frustrating this must be for you. When I have strong feelings I try to step away and do something for myself. Eventually the feelings calm down and I achieve some clarity of mind, pointing me towards what I should do.
