First 2x4. Decided to answer. WHY? Will you ever go no contact? Nothing said on this call advanced your situation. Didn't really set it back except for once again resetting the clock.
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but he went right on to ask about our timeshare and I told him I still needed to make a phone call and if I got a lunch break today I would try calling them and forward the information.
WHAT? IN? THE? HECK?
Everything I've read from you the time-share was his baby. So why are you the once calling and getting information!?!?
Him:What about the timeshare? You: I will leave it to you to get the information about the timeshare. Him: Whine, moan, complain. You: Yes, I can see getting the information is not convenient for you. Him: More whine, moan, and complain. You: Just send it over when you get it. I have go get ready for work. Bye. -click-
KC, I've said it before, I'll say it again. Enough time has past that you should be handling all of this much better. You are an intelligent, wise woman. The only reason you are not getting this is because you don't want to. You still think you can nice him back. You still go up when he is nice, and down when he is less than nice. " in my head I'm thinking DUDE you called me don't act annoyed with me" WHO GIVES A FLIP?
He is a lying cheater, and yet you worry about whether he is annoyed with you or not. It makes me sad that you still allow yourself to react to his moods. He doesn't deserve that from you. He doesn't even deserve you taking his call.
I agree... I do... but I'm supposed to be getting the paperwork for our financial settlement in order and that requires some contact and sharing information.
BUT - I get what you are saying... totally.
I even went so far as to state "I need to know what you spend every month on the boat, motorcycle and truck insurance" --- Required on the legal docs from atty.
I said "I think its X/6mo on truck, X/yr on bike, X/yr on boat". He said "yes that sounds about right" [yes, I paid all the bills so I have an idea of what these were]
HERE IS WHERE SOMEONE NEEDS TO SLAP ME SILLY "the bike and boat yearly payments would have been due last month.. you did get that taken care of didn't you"
^^^HOLY COW, the minute I said it I just wanted to take it back. Why, am I taking care of this man still??? Of course he figured out how it was due though he can't manage to pay for the whole year at once and told me he was doing it quarterly... YES, I face palmed myself. Its none of my business if he can manage his own stupid affairs.
As for the timeshare --- YES, he is to pay it off but I will retain 100% ownership... so it is information I needed to access. Not trying to make excuses.
If he doesn't have atty and we are working through financials how do I not take a call? or a text? or an email? There has to be some contact but I am 100% at fault that I did not cut off the call and it got personal and chatty. That is 100% on me.
