I’m still here reading from time to time, but not posting at this time. But I would like some advice.
A few months ago “H” took up the habit of periodically texting D5 directly, on my phone obviously. For example “Good morning [D5]! I hope you have a great day!” or similar. It has always annoyed me and I’ve sometimes ignored it, sometimes let D5 dictate a response, sometimes replies to him that I’d relayed his message.
Interestingly, after his revelation about dating someone new, it stopped for a couple of weeks which was fine by me.
Now he’s started doing it again. Texting D5, sometimes adding in a picture of her or including a message to me.
What I actually want to do is ignore it. I am trying to have as little contact with him as possible. The only thing stopping me is that I would not like it if he ignored my texts re D5 when she was with him. The difference is, I wouldn’t do this weird indirect thing he is doing. I’ve at times asked him to say goodnight to her for me, or something similarly direct.
It feels like one of those things where if I just ignore it it could cause an issue. Asking him to stop doing it in this manner feels like it would come out petty and very attached sounding, and I do not wish to give him that satisfaction. (for the record, I do not believe my feelings around this are petty, I just think it would come across that way if I communicate it).
