This was good to read, thank you IW, LH and Ginger.
IW, good point on forgiveness. Something I'll look in to more. I don't want to forgive someone whom isnt seeking forgiveness but I know that only hurts me. The principle bugs me, you did X hurting all of us yet are facing almost no repercussions.
LH you're right that I'm more unstable than her. How one turns off the emotion I dont get. Its like she completely separates and ignores it. For me, its there till I face and resolve it. I suppose the problem is that this wasnt amicable at first. It took months of living with this version of her to get there. You are right that its going about as good as one would hope....im surprised it is. Her reactions when I took the MBR, asked for mediation, confronted her affair were way different. Emotionally charged then and with conflict. For my role in the situation, I apologized from the heart a few times months back. Sincerely, thoroughly and thoughtfully.
Good points Ginger. What gets me is shes asking if she can still come over to see the kids, still do stuff as a family. Why would I want to do any of it with someone who did what she did?
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
