I'm sure on the decision here to D. I didn't D for a reaction but rather to get me and the kids to a more stable environment. I reached my limit of neglect, criticism, control and see myself as valuable enough to move away from that.
If thats true, its just so unfortunate for her.
Yes it is. That's why it's a crisis. That's why we have compassion for what they are going through - all is not right in their world.
Originally Posted by Core
I haven't seen a tear shed over her ending the M, ruining her kids chance at a nuclear family, the pain the kids will experience over the years. The only time she seems upset is when she realizes she'll see the kids less.
See above.
Originally Posted by Core
I see I'm still hoping for a real apology....sorry its come to this, sorry I drove you to file, sorry for hurting you, its my fault for such and such.
Those are expectations. You may never get those things. Read DnJ's thread if you want to know what that's like.
Originally Posted by Core
How does one plan to be amicable and coparent without ever cleaning up the damage they did.
Forgiveness is a two way street. You can start working on forgiving her. What she does is not in your control.
What if you didn't care? What if you let her be? What if you just went on with your life?
