I don’t think that is naive or ridiculous G. I had the same question TBH. I’ve been on a ton of first dates and have not been excited about seeing anyone a second time. Not even sure how Jack and I ended up dating because I wasn’t particularly excited about him either...he just wasn’t a “hard no” like the others have been. Facebook guy was the other one who wasn’t a hard no but now that I saw him again a month ago, I know for sure he is only meant to be a friend. Now I have TDH who I am excited about and who does make my heart skip a beat. Of course I haven’t met him in person but if he is only 50% as handsome IRL as he is in his pictures, I am probably a goner. Anyway...excitement for a potential BF is a must for me...it doesn’t have to be over the top, crazy but there just has to be some kind of a spark. If I don’t have that, what would be the point of dating someone? I know you are going through a hard time right now but I encourage you not to give up and think about settling.
RE: your coworker. This is dangerous territory. Not because I think you would have an affair but because it could lead you down a path of unrequited love that could set you back. IDK Ginger. The more posts I read of yours, the more concerned I get about you because I feel like you are focusing on the wrong things and it is just getting you in more of a funk. Maybe it is time to see an IC for a bit to help you sort some of these things out? Just an idea. Hang in there. (((HUGS)))
