Hi Dillydaf, thank you for the encouragement. I appreciate your following my threads.

Yes she did leave so quickly. Thinking about it, she runs away from problems a lot. In all previous relationships she’s had, when things got a bit tough, she just dumped them. She’d rather quit something and not fix it, because she doesn’t seem to want to ever put the effort in. She doesn’t like complex explanations either - she refused to believe any explanation other than a simple ‘he doesn’t care about you, that’s it.’ Long standing factors or things that might have been going on in my head from before we met - no, they were irrelevant as far as she was concerned.

I found a blog that really helped me whilst I was going through therapy, and I found myself nodding along to lots of text on that blog. I still read it from time to time as a way of keeping a positive attitude.

As you say, I’ll just keep it all up! It’s not even hard to maintain the good work I am doing now. It’s become quite natural.


Me - 36, W - 32
No kids
T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr
Discovery - 14 May 2019
S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019
D & House sale final - Feb 2020