Thanks for visiting my thread. You have been busy on the dating front. It makes me laugh thinking of that woman who first came on her who thought she'd never have physical intimacy again !!!
Re your H. I get the snooping. You want to be prepared for the battle to come. Also, a little bit of it is even if you've moved on, is a trigger for you. The thing about triggers is they bring out the worst in us. This is why I do not get in his car or visit his flat. They are triggers and the only one who gets hurt is me. I also know my H must feel the same as you do when he comes to visit (even though MO was his 'unilateral' choice). And you know how I feel whenever he is here - an invasion of my privacy, a sense of helplessness and of being on edge. It feels even worse when he is here without me. I know HE is snooping through the drawers leaving me unable to relax and simply enjoy whatever it is I am doing that has taken me away from the house. It is my home and he is trespassing (even though it is his home and he has every legal right to be there).
Ok, enough lecturing. I get it. What you feel and what you are doing is natural and I don't know, after having written the above, what help having written the above is. Perhaps it helps that you know that you're staying there p***es him off
I think you live in the UK. If you do then anything you find on his laptop is inadmissible and you will look like the bad guy.
