Is it appropriate to ask him to return his key? And once he has his place sorted to ask him to collect all of his stuff from the house?
He is paying the mortgage and The bills on the house that kids and i live in.
It is appropriate to ask him to return his key and move out his stuff. But prepare for more spewing to come, H might react negatively, and if he is holding the power on the finances he may very well use that again you.
As to MIL - I am still friendly with MIL, your friendship with the in-laws does not have to change as long as your in laws are blaming you for what's happening. I have made it clear to my MIL that there is nothing I can do to fix the situation, and I have no idea why H is the way he is currently.
