Here are the thoughts on my list. I do not know how to quote, so bear with me:
1 We will divorce-
Divorce is a hard thing to view. I married, as most here, for better or worse. I truly believe we can work through this. Yes, I know of people that have divorced and reconciled, but I would prefer to work hard on reconciliation.
2 He will remarry.
He is my husband, I do not want him to marry someone else, to be in love so much that he wants to commit to another person, when he could not hold up his commitment to me.
3 He will be happy and realize it WAS me that made him unhappy not MLC.
I can understand and respect if he is going through MLC, and although I understand that all MLC sufferers do not always come out on the other side of an MLC and can spend the rest of their lives trying to be happy, I am fearful that we divorce, he is happy to be free of the commitment of marriage and I am thought of as the cause of all of this.
4 We will not grow old together
One thing, we have been together longer than a part. I envisioned us traveling together in retirement. Having grandkids together, spending the night and grandmas and grandpas. Now that is a different reality.
5 We will have to move.
I fear that this house, we will have to move from. I do not necessarily have memories that willhurt, it is more of the security. I did not ask for this, I do not deserve to have my marriage blown up and now have to move because of his issues.
6 I will be alone and die alone because he left me I do not want to date anyone. So if I do not date I die alone.
7 I will not have someone love me like a husband should. NOw, this is where I feel that if he could can make it through this MLC with my support, I can have this
8 People will pity me.
This may be why I have not told anyone about this sitch. They can't help. I do not want to see their sadness and not be able to answer questions is too hard.
9 He will have a great time without me.
I do not necessarily think he is having too much fun. I think that he is having fun in the moment, but since he comes home and hides in the room, I think that it is only when he is out.
10 i will never drop the rope.
I know it is counter-in tuitive but I think that if I drop it is over, I do not want to give up
11 He will eventually lie more and not let me keep all he said he would.
I am afraid if I approach and say, "hey, H, last week you suggested I could keep the house and asked what I need to live here, here is the amount, can you sign this now ?" then it is over.
